I'm sure she is hurt, but not just because she thinks I don't want to talk to her, but because I won't talk to her about her problems that she refuses to do anything to change. And because as always, she can't accept the word "no." She throws a tantrum. When I told her I wouldn't watch Jayden for her two days a week (when I was working 40 hours a week; I'd already been watching him for her one day a week), she called me & Jen & Kevin "losers" and yelled at me so loud they were able to hear it in the background, then told me I wouldn't see my nephew at all. Then continued calling until they unplugged the phone for me.
I do know where you're coming from though, sweetie. But here's how I feel about it at this point: she doesn't care about how her life affects me whatsoever. I laid it all out for her months ago. I told her how every time she calls me about Lance, I feel sick & upset for days, and it affects my life. And then her life meanwhile goes right back to normal, but mine takes a while to find its balance again. I told her I've already given her all the advice I can, and she never listens. I've told her it makes me resent her. I've told her how I think it affects Jayden. I've told her Lance needs to go to A.A. and they both need counseling, together & apart, or she needs to leave him, and that I doubt he'll ever change regardless. But that whatever she does, it's her problem from now on & not mine.
So what does she do? Acts like she respects my decision, just so she can now throw a tantrum about it later. Yell at me, cry at me and tell me I'm "not her friend" and tell me "fuck you." Meanwhile she doesn't care AT ALL what this is doing to my life. As usual. I'm just over it. There's no point calling to tell her I care, because she's too combative & she's going to reject it. She already knows I care. She just doesn't want to hear that I don't want to talk to her about Lance anymore, and that I'm not going to come running to her to "make up" after she hungs up on me afterward. Well, tough shit, Corinne. And guess what, if you hang up on me again, I'm STILL not going to run to you immediately afterward. She's going to have to call me. Or she's going to have to wait a little while for me to call her. Either way, this shit is on my terms and I'm not going to be stuck in a cycle of drama with her.
Sorry to vent on you, but thanks for letting me do it. Heh.
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I do know where you're coming from though, sweetie. But here's how I feel about it at this point: she doesn't care about how her life affects me whatsoever. I laid it all out for her months ago. I told her how every time she calls me about Lance, I feel sick & upset for days, and it affects my life. And then her life meanwhile goes right back to normal, but mine takes a while to find its balance again. I told her I've already given her all the advice I can, and she never listens. I've told her it makes me resent her. I've told her how I think it affects Jayden. I've told her Lance needs to go to A.A. and they both need counseling, together & apart, or she needs to leave him, and that I doubt he'll ever change regardless. But that whatever she does, it's her problem from now on & not mine.
So what does she do? Acts like she respects my decision, just so she can now throw a tantrum about it later. Yell at me, cry at me and tell me I'm "not her friend" and tell me "fuck you." Meanwhile she doesn't care AT ALL what this is doing to my life. As usual. I'm just over it. There's no point calling to tell her I care, because she's too combative & she's going to reject it. She already knows I care. She just doesn't want to hear that I don't want to talk to her about Lance anymore, and that I'm not going to come running to her to "make up" after she hungs up on me afterward. Well, tough shit, Corinne. And guess what, if you hang up on me again, I'm STILL not going to run to you immediately afterward. She's going to have to call me. Or she's going to have to wait a little while for me to call her. Either way, this shit is on my terms and I'm not going to be stuck in a cycle of drama with her.
Sorry to vent on you, but thanks for letting me do it. Heh.