Also, I like that your bar is genocide. Lots of people don't commit genocide. I mean...what? Random
This made me laugh. You're good at helping me spot my own ridiculousness/thinking errors. You would probably make a good social worker/counselor, just for the record. That managed to be both All-or-Nothing thinking--you should've asked what defined "good" too--and Disqualifying the Positive, all at the same time, it's true. (Yes, cognitive-behavioral therapy, I still remember you, even if I obviously still needed more of you)
Wanting to protect yourself and putting your needs first does not make you bad, especially because you are not being selfish or hurting anybody with your choice to heal and be safe.
What about my nephew & niece? They're left with the crabs. I couldn't take them with me. Sending letters/gifts at this point would only complicate the situation further & likely be akin to throwing fuel on fire. Either way, I'm not there to look out for them. I can't even watch for signs of abuse/neglect to call for help if need be. I'm just gone. Jayden knows he can call me, theoretically, but he's just a little kid. That's a very small comfort. Part of me feels like I chose myself over them.
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Date: 2011-02-10 11:44 am (UTC)This made me laugh. You're good at helping me spot my own ridiculousness/thinking errors. You would probably make a good social worker/counselor, just for the record. That managed to be both All-or-Nothing thinking--you should've asked what defined "good" too--and Disqualifying the Positive, all at the same time, it's true. (Yes, cognitive-behavioral therapy, I still remember you, even if I obviously still needed more of you)
Wanting to protect yourself and putting your needs first does not make you bad, especially because you are not being selfish or hurting anybody with your choice to heal and be safe.
What about my nephew & niece? They're left with the crabs. I couldn't take them with me. Sending letters/gifts at this point would only complicate the situation further & likely be akin to throwing fuel on fire. Either way, I'm not there to look out for them. I can't even watch for signs of abuse/neglect to call for help if need be. I'm just gone. Jayden knows he can call me, theoretically, but he's just a little kid. That's a very small comfort. Part of me feels like I chose myself over them.